“In my next life I want to live backwards. Start out dead and finish off as an orgasm.” – Woody Allen
Orgasm anxiety refers to a type of anxiety that arises from a person’s inability to loosen up, perform, and have an enjoyable session of intimacy and sex. People of all genders suffer from orgasm anxiety.
Orgasm anxiety typically originates via unnecessary thoughts that creep into our minds even when we just want to feel good and have a good time. Such thoughts can be varied and range from worries about sounding right and looking right during sex to fears about taking far too much time to reach climax.
Below are 3 things that you need to know about orgasm anxiety.
1. Women and orgasm anxiety
In cultures all over the world, female pleasure and sexuality are generally not talked about in an open way nor is it accepted widely. Hence, most women tend to create their own theories of their sexuality. Most women are typically not taught how to feel empowered and talk about their feelings during sex or their desires and wants out of sex.
A large percentage of women suffer from pain during sex, but most of them rarely talk about it. The systemic culture instills insecurities in women about their bodies and physical appearances, which prevent them from enjoying sex.
2. Causes of orgasm anxiety
There are many physiological elements that can hamper the ability of women to orgasm and/or their sexual desires, including low testosterone, hormone imbalances, anatomy, and use of medicines, etc.
It can also be due to issues with the partner, such as lack of sensitivity or attraction to the partner, and/or a male partner who suffers from premature ejaculation or who has inadequate knowledge about a woman’s body.
Additionally, the increased pressure that women face for reaching a climax only makes things worse and prevents them from being sexually aroused.
Women also tend to be deeply affected by the lack of affection or increased hostility shown by their parents during their childhood. This causes them to develop a poor body image, low self-esteem, distrust of future partners, and automatic self-defense mechanisms that contribute towards sexual non-enjoyment.
3. How to overcome orgasm anxiety
One of the best ways to get rid of orgasm anxiety is to realize and accept the fact that you are suffering from it. Once you have accepted the presence of the condition, you can work towards different resolutions.
You first need to get to know your body, because the body is the center of sexual pleasure. Learn about the different ways the body can be aroused and result in sexual happiness and pleasure.
Orgasm anxiety sufferers do not need to turn off the pesky thoughts and anxiety that come into their minds during sex. Instead, the thoughts should be recognized as being there and then cast away to a corner as they have no bearing on your ability to enjoy sex, CBT can help tremendously. The focus should remain on the body; you can begin by restricting the focus in the genital region and then slowly progress to other erogenous areas of the body.
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