“The Ego Judges And Punishes, Love Forgives And Heals.”
The best way I can describe the ego would be like this: An inner voice that only knows extremes, and relentlessly pursues that which goes against our true selves.
There’s very little discussion around how the ego is the main cause of high levels of anxiety. I bet you never even heard the word ego until recently, and if you had to explain it to someone else you’d have a challenging time doing so. That’s ok, after this blog post the ego and your current high levels of anxiety will make much more sense.
The enemy of inner peace and contentment is the ego
Remember the voice in your head that said ‘hey, your progress is too damn slow!’ That’s the ego, and it doesn’t only show up within the mental body (thoughts), but within the emotional body as well (feelings). The ego points out how others are doing better than you, or how you’re doing so much better than others. It knows no medium, only extremes, and it’s main headquarters resides within the emotion of fear.
I hear you saying, ‘why does the ego fear so much?’
Because a life of inner chaos, drama, and punishment is all it knows. It is a by-product of the environment you grew up in, and over time compounded to become a relentless machine focused solely on the future and the past. Since high levels of anxiety is a manifestation of future catastrophic possibilities, the ego maintains this laser like focus on what’s going to happen next.
Going up against an unfamiliar situation? High levels of anxiety and the ego will most likely be right around the corner
The ego hates anything unfamiliar. Which is why healing high levels of anxiety can be somewhat complicated sometimes. I assure you though, understanding the 3 ways the ego causes your high levels of anxiety below will create massive amounts of clarity for you.
1) The ego prevents you from seeing things as they are, the way god intended it
We are co-creators of our lives side by side with source energy (this video shares the 5 lessons I learned about god during my anxiety recovery). When we were young we were told how high it’s possible to jump, what we’re capable of accomplishing, the struggles that will appear in life as we grow up, how mistakes are a bad thing, and so on. These suggestions (although coming through good intentions of our parents and other authority figures) gave us a distorted view of ourselves and the world around us.
“We came to this world with love, and we learned how to fear pretty much everything along the way.”
It’s quite sad actually how we’re a planet with billions of inhabitants and we feel so lonely as a collective. Every smile from a stranger is a potential psychopath in our minds, every compliment we get we analyze to the point where we find the falseness in it, and everyday we’re forced back into our comfort zones never having the true courage to scratch our own itch. We’re alive, but not living the way we’re meant to be living.
2) The ego is overly judgemental leading to a lack of flow in a persons life
To flow with life is to accept things as they are. You see flow in nature all the time when you notice the rhythm of the ocean waves, the clouds as they gently pass along, and the animals as they contently travel in packs. A lack of flow comes down to one word, and that word is ruining humanity today… Fight!
We fight everything from our competitors, to the traffic, to the daily lineups, to disease, and even the piece of the divine when it shows up within us looking to guide us. Fighting has ruined society when in fact deep down we are caring, loving, accepting, non-judgemental, playful, and peaceful human beings (listen to the secret to a peaceful mind here). But every time we tap into any of these natural traits we freak out!
Because the ego needs you to stay on guard and keep fighting, because if you don’t it may cost you your paycheque, reputation, or even your life! No wonder we have such high levels of anxiety floating around everywhere we go today.
The solution to this is to evaluate over judge. To decide that to be led by the ego’s delusional judgements is to live a life of inner pain with temporary un-natural moments of happiness. You’re not as good as your ego says you are and you’re not as bad as your ego says you are. This makes evaluating the judgements of your ego crucial towards lessening and ending your high levels of anxiety starting today.
3) The ego is a reflection of the wounded inner child within
The inner child is confused, hurt, and in need of the opposite of fear which is love. Something it didn’t receive growing up. The void of those past emotional traumas and repressed emotions must be filled, since the universe hates a void. So we do so in any un-natural soul sucking way we can from the external world. The only problem is there’s nothing in the outside world other than targeted advice, that can heal the wounded child within.
That targeted advice also comes with a message of responsibility though. And many times we fear that new level of responsibility due to the fear of making a mistake
Again, not your fault but your responsibility to overcome. The wounded inner child which now reveals itself as high levels of anxiety was told at school that mistakes are bad, passing equals success and F’s make you a failure, your 3 pointer was never technically perfect enough, your class speeches were always lacking something, and so on. Again, this begs the question of how can high levels of anxiety not be present in a persons life with the constant barrage and needs that weren’t met as children?
We don’t have a choice though, the re-framing process is necessary for healing and releasing the ego mind. To re-frame past events means to take off the current lenses you’re wearing (which comes with repeated perspectives based around self punishment) over what happened, and put on new ones.
These new lenses are the most quickly accepted within the subconscious mind through mild to deeper trance work in order to by-pass the security guard that protects all your core beliefs (the critical faculty). The audios and information in my programs touch on this at a much deeper level.
Conclusion
The ego isn’t unbeatable, and it’s greatest weakness is self-awareness. People that go through life unconsciously thinking and reacting based on the emotion that’s felt will live a life of emotional slavery. Don’t allow this to be you. Begin building your self awareness whenever the extreme judgements of the ego show up, put on your new lenses to perceive the situation differently, and act on that new perception so that in time you can move closer and closer towards inner peace.
The conclusion sums up emotional immaturity beautifully which I have recently recognised in myself and have now started to question and try to better my thought patterns. To not be so reactional to emotion. Stop and think. Thank you. Maureen
Maureen thanks for sharing. ❤️
Today I’m going for my full health check up . I did it last 2 years and it was good and I know today it will be better coz physically I feel better and I do take care of myself but somewhere along that line my “ego” seems to want to jeopardise that and keeps popping out with the “Negative Nelly What ifs “ … yes I do feel scared coz but I am going to still go for it . I have been on 2 poles of extreme where I used to visit the doctor so regular that the doc literally asked me to “ just chill” and now I am scared to go to the doctor . This is my battle with myself and my thinking ( ego) but I am gonna just do it .
In love , good heath and healing ~ Marini
Thank you Dennis
Love the mindset, the body heals when the delusional fear based mind gets out of the way. ❤️
Hi I finally took the courage to went for full health check up and report turns good (phew!) except that my urine alb/cre ratio is not very bad but it’s also not good. It basically means my kidney is not doing it’s filtering job to the fulllest.
I do try to eat well and exercise fairly ok and I don’t smoke but I was just wondering if my irrational anxiety is kind of affect its functionality somehow. Maybe I am being too far fetched but I am just wondering do u think there is a relation between kidney and anxiety . I read that in Chinese medicine if the kidney Meridien is affected , one of it’s symptoms is anxiety and if we look at the “relationship between the body and mind “, Kidney related issues can be link to extreme fear /anxiety.
Can anyone share anything related to this ?
please delete this post if I sounded stupid😬
The adrenal glands which work hard to maintain the fight or flight system sit just above the kidneys, and constant emotional distress can certainly affect the kidney area. It’s always a signal when something doesn’t work right that priority must be given to ourselves more, and the inner work must continue. ❤️
Hi I finally took the courage to went for full health check up and report turns good (phew!) except that my urine alb/cre ratio is not very bad but it’s also not good. It basically means my kidney is not doing it’s filtering job to the fulllest.
I do try to eat well and exercise fairly ok and I don’t smoke but I was just wondering if my irrational anxiety is kind of affect its functionality somehow. Maybe I am being too far fetched but I am just wondering do u think there is a relation between kidney and anxiety . I read that in Chinese medicine if the kidney Meridien is affected , one of it’s symptoms is anxiety and if we look at the “relationship between the body and mind “, Kidney related issues can be link to extreme fear /anxiety.
Can anyone share anything related to this ?
please delete this post if I sounded stupid😬
Main lesson I learned is that living from the ego means thinking and doing just based on whatever you FEEL (base) . I’ve been seeking a simple definition of this for quite a while now so THANKS!!!
Glad the article explained things in detail to you. Every moment of clarity feeds into healing anxiety. Much love.
The key takeaway from this post is the fact that those who are struggling with ego needs love to heal and although at times it is extremely difficult to love those who are hurting, I think at the end of the day, that is what they need. With love, the pain and the power struggle with ego can be beaten over time!
Thanks for adding your input Nayla. 🙏
Great relieving reminder and thank you for sharing your perspective. The ego mind also seems like it is in charge to « forget » this poignant reminder. Being aware of the egos presence is so crucial to healing and acknowledging the child within that was so cruelly reprimanded. I felt this (internalized) as I was reading your wise words. Knowing is a great start to be the witness of these mind programs when they arise. I am doing some inner work and at this time it so hit home. Appreciate this so much as I am a long term sufferer of internal terrorized belief system that’s unraveling with consistant inquiry. My dog had just run away a half hour ago and I tried to stay calm and asked humbly for guidance and up popped your article. On another topic m, Divine intelligence is alive and well. Everything happens as it is. Convinced that knowthing is going wrong here it was all in perfect order. Thank you thank you from my heart centered being.
Much love Stacie. ❤️
Extremely useful content. Something I will read over and over to remind myself! My Ego can be so stubborn and sticky at times but this really puts things into perspective for me. Thank you so much x
So very welcome Gemma, enjoy the site.
Awsome information, most of my problems have always revolved around my inner child, and I have to continually catch myself in overthinking and reacting situations.I know that I can overcome anxiety ,and at 62 Years old have made incredible progress in less than one year.Another major factor that I will mention is that I have dedicated my life to ,not only to a healthy mental mind but a healthy physical body,which I have found is extremely important on many levels. Thanks again Dennis,I truly know ,”I am more than anxiety. “
Much love Jerry thanks for sharing.
How true that all in all it all starts from our childhood, this really opened my eyes, instead of being praised for accomplishments I was told it wasn’t good enough, or good for trying. It all makes sense on how I perceive, intake on a daily basis now. Dennis once again thank you for what you do ♥️🙏🏻
Very welcome Sophia thank you for your continued trust. ❤️🙏