“Verbally Sugar Coating The Anxiety Challenges Someone May Be Going Through Only Prolongs The Journey.”
Let’s think of this scenario from an anxiety sufferers point of view. The sufferer is going through a challenging situation, either internally (via thinking, bodily sensations, etc) or externally (criticism, workplace stress, etc). The sufferer comes to their regular support person for help/guidance. The support person shares logical advice like ‘it’s not you it’s them’ or ‘your bodily sensations are safe.’
The Anxiety Sufferer Wants To Believe This Logical Advice, But Consciously And Subconsciously Can’t Create Any Kind Of Mental Momentum.
Eventually the heightened emotions of the sufferer dies down, the survival and emotional brains calm themselves because the threat is averted (left the environment). The sufferer (hate this word, sorry) begins internalizing the whole experience labelling and judging themselves in a negative manner.
The sufferer, at this point, goes about the next day thinking they have a fresh start. The only problem is because of the emotional intensity of the anxiety provoking event, the subconscious mind is standing guard in case a similar situation arises.
The cycle continues, there is no conscious interference to create a proper mindset in the morning and in similar challenging environments, there are no mental, emotional, physical skill sets standing by, and faith in the sufferers ability to deal crumbles.
The Support Person Becomes The Only Hope, A Cycle Of Needing Reassurance Continues, And Life Becomes A Struggle To Get Through The Day
This is neither the sufferer nor the supporters fault. We’ll hold on, it kind of is. Reason being, a sufferer is going about their days living with similar thinking and reactive patterns they saw from mom and dad, and that they learned during childhood.
Mirroring our authority figures is greatly out of our hands during our young childhood years. And due to being told what to think and not how to think (school, parents, coaches, etc) we never stopped to think about how we and life could be any different.
Thinking Is A Foreign Concept, Remembering And Reacting Based On The Emotion Felt Has Become Habit
My advice to you for your anxiety (of any kind), is to focus on practical solutions over reassurance seeking, and re-frame your past emotionally traumatic experiences through videos like this one. The reassurance seeking may meet a human need that wasn’t fulfilled during childhood, that keeps you wanting more, but only harms your progress.
A thought is just a thought, an emotion is just an emotion. They’re both best guesses based on the situation and previous experiences. You don’t need to fall victim to either. Sugar coating makes a persons personality even softer, more pliable for others to manipulate.
You Don’t Want To Be A Victim To Every Suggestion Others Make, Or Every Emotion You Feel, Do You?
I can only hope you answered no as far as your anxiety. If the answer is no, it’s time you began questioning your:
S – Strategy
H – Habits
I – Impulses
P – Physiology
This acronym known as SHIP is the responsibility of the Subconscious pre-programmed mind IF, and only IF, the conscious mind doesn’t step up. I can only hope I’ve opened your eyes to new possibilities today, riled you up, and created some emotion within you. A joyful and pleasant life is your birthright, you deserve all the good in the world, but nothing changes until your analytical mind starts questioning your current identity and beliefs.