“Like Any Other Kind Of Relationship, It Can Be Hard To Break Up In Your Relationship With Anxiety.”
Think about it for a moment, which relationships in your life come to mind quicker than others? I bet it’s the ones that lasted the longest, coupled with the ones that had the most emotional intensity behind them. This is one of those reasons why it becomes so challenging to let go of the relationship with anxiety. Since anxiety has been there with you through thick and thin.
Anxiety is pain, suffering, comfort, and safety
Life with anxiety can seem much more safe than a life without it many times. So when you consciously decide that you’re ready to divorce your anxiety, the subconscious mind shows up with a host of reasons for why you shouldn’t end the relationship with anxiety, such as:
- It’s been too long together and you’re too invested already
- The prospect of changing your beliefs and eliminating suffering altogether is too unfamiliar
- The maintenance of these new beliefs and new persona won’t be possible
- People will respond to you differently, and possibly won’t accept the new you without anxiety
And many more…
Here’s the thing though, you’ve been blaming all the things that haven’t been working for you when in fact it’s the strength of your relationship with anxiety. Many people believe that it’s the method, or the supplement, or the technique that didn’t work for them, which in this case becomes false. It’s the safety factor and the need for anxiety at some level in your life that’s holding you back.
Understand This! It Can Change Everything
End the denial. Dig deeper, and see it from a new perspective (in terms of health anxiety, THIS podcast is a must). Could this be true for you and if so are you ready admit it and invest fully into creating new belief systems? Many times it doesn’t have to be a technique or skill set that turns it all around, but a moment of clarity. This moment breaks down all the walls an anxiety sufferer has consciously and unconsciously put up to maintain their emotional state. But today those walls come down once and for all.